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March 10, 2010 at 10:33 pm
I believe ALOT of men think like this
March 11, 2010 at 5:42 pm
None of the guy friends I know think like this, so I don’t think that the majority do. The question that I would like to pose to men who think like this is “What if the shoe was on the other foot?” Would the man just sit back and not be concerned as long as his woman is treating him like a king otherwise. Hmmmmm! I wonder?
March 10, 2010 at 10:34 pm
WHAT! You may be right…lets see if they weigh in..lol. This guy just put it out there…
March 10, 2010 at 10:35 pm
Pathetic, barbaric and ridiculous!!!!!! But is it true? maybe.. SADLY for SOME.
March 10, 2010 at 10:35 pm
I agree, most women wouldn’t notice if their man was on point at home, in the household and with the children. I don’t believe ALL men cheat, but I do think that both women and men have thought about it…its about the pros and cons.
Women are much more slicker when it comes to cheating, men have a long way to go when it comes to being sneaky…lol! Whats funny is some men want to be in the streets, but are sick to the stomach thinking of their woman with another man…funny to say the least.
March 10, 2010 at 10:37 pm
I had a very eye opening conversation with a friend of mine (male) he told me the problem with men is that at a very young age their taught to get all the “cookies” they can, even when their married. Make sure u take care of home while taking care of her her and her. These men are deacons and trusted figures in young men lives. On the other hand … See Morewomen are taught to stand by ur one man, take care of him inside and out so he has no desire to go outside the home. We have been take different methods of love from the beginning and until we teach male and female the same, we will continue to have the same problem. Cheating, lying, infidelity, broken homes, blended families etc. Women trying to give their all to a man who was taught and programmed other wise and have no clue how to appreciate it.
March 10, 2010 at 10:38 pm
Good thoughts LaCherryon! How many times do we hear a man will be a man? All the time…like is a preamble…I aint mad though
March 10, 2010 at 10:39 pm
Pray when he leaves & praise when he returns! All men dnt think like this the majority do though but its ur business when its ur husband. Weighn in true 2 a degree; its 4 those that settle.
March 10, 2010 at 10:41 pm
@ lacherryon now u r on it! 100
March 10, 2010 at 10:41 pm
Yes I kinda wanted to cyber slap that guy when I read that…but you know what, I had to take a step back..because a lot of men don’t speak on it..but they really feel this way. Look at all the mob movies (Casino) where the men have mistresses but if the woman cheats…shes toast. Of course this is a movie but you see my point. Whoah this is scary stuff…imaging what goes on…
March 10, 2010 at 10:42 pm
I can’t say I disagree with him because perception is the key…if you are on point at home and taking care of business, and careful a man can get away with a lot more. If he is dropping the ball, that would call for attention to his behavior.
March 10, 2010 at 10:43 pm
@Myeshia-sigh…the older I get, the more I realize that this may be a painful truth…
March 10, 2010 at 10:44 pm
Vern I know right? But you know if he is making you happy and not bringin the BS into the house…then you wouldn’t know otherwise right?
March 10, 2010 at 10:45 pm
Gary it’s kool.
March 10, 2010 at 10:46 pm
Its what is in the heart of the man that matters..anyone can cheat, I think for some men it is just sexually, where as for some women it is emotionally…maybe goes back to what Ms. Bellamy was saying about how we are taught…
March 10, 2010 at 10:47 pm
@Myesha- YIKES is all I can say…yes it has some truth to it EXCEPT there is a whole nother level of reality that men in this situation overlook. What about the SPIRITUAL implications of this behavior? Let’s say a man COULD manage to mess around and still keep it tight at home….what about the karma he brings on himself and those in his household? I sincerely believe that THAT is the danger we often don’t think about. We all reap what we sow…eventually…–making spooky face–lol
March 10, 2010 at 10:48 pm
I’m not in denial Myesha- I’m just saying…too many people walk around doing stuff..not realizing that it has a impact…and you can fool people but you can’t fool the man upstairs. I would be very worried about having my life in the hands of a deviant individual…With that being said…I still think this may be more true than any woman wants to admit! And I think that cheating may be physical for women these days also..the game is changing…
March 10, 2010 at 10:49 pm
Vern, I agree, but spritually according to what God or influence? Iin many countries, religions, territories it is ok for a man to have many partners, even in some religions women can have many partners. Karma is a factor, but obviously in his mind he is taking care of home so he sees no problem… I always tell my guy friends that a wife is always… See More upheld to this high regard, where as a husband is not. You killing me with the spooky face..I think it goes back to communication, I can guarantee you that while some marriages have communication, not all of them are OPEN communication because of what the expectations of a husband and wife are in America and in the bible.
You are right, the game is changing, but a real woman knows her worth and knows her goods are more than just sexual excitement for the moment and sex isn’t a great things unless you are giving it to someone you love…now you can love the wrong person right? I know you are not in denial…but if God is willing to forgive a weak man/woman and we … See Morecan ALWAYS ask for forgiveness…we can or should not feel anything but the same right? If that is what we are basing or belief system on?
Thats why there is a God and we are human…humans are weak…or should I say most humans use weakness as an excuse, because everything is a sole decision…just my opinion.
March 10, 2010 at 10:50 pm
Spiritually according to God and whatever religion that the couple collectively practices. Sure different cultures have different beliefs but people are supposed to act according to the vows they take before god and each other….I think that acting according to some other personal rules is deceptive….regardless of the communication in a marraige. And that to me is a recipe for disaster….
March 10, 2010 at 10:51 pm
So it is taught that a woman give herself to man….um, what if she isn’t…is that deceptive? Or should love and vows over shadow that?
March 10, 2010 at 10:52 pm
@Myesha- didnt understand ur question. Are you saying that if a woman isnt giving up th cookies? Should that be overshaddowed?
March 10, 2010 at 10:53 pm
yeah the cookies, the milk, the brownies LOL! you know some men are a little freaky these days
I agree…in my marriage, I would want my man to be spiritual and seek no other and live up to our vows as I would….but, in reality this isn’t as easy for some as it is for others. People grow and change and sometimes change comes and no one is prepared…but I totally agree. I want a strong man who can communicate with me, but at the same time I… See More personally think that if the wife or husband communicates and needs are not being met, issues will arise despite what they vows say and despite what their intentions are. Or they are not open to new ideas…from MANY peoples relationships this is a huge issue.
March 10, 2010 at 10:55 pm
Oh! Ok didnt want to make any assumtions. Now you bring up a good question. I am not assuming that everyone here follows the Bible…but technically a woman is required to give up the cookies…so if she isn’t then THAT is wrong also. And actually if either party doesn’t play their role in that area…they are ruining the marraige. So yes, in … See Morethe instances that a woman is withholding, she is going to cause issues that she may not be prepared for. And a LOT of women don’t face this…and learn the hard way. So no, in my opinion vows etc don’t override a person having needs. But that i still no excuse to cheat and mess around…..
March 11, 2010 at 5:56 pm
Definately, definately not an excuse to cheat and mess around but rather a good reason to address the relationship and question the unconditional love that marriage is “suppose” to be about. Unfortunatley some women distribute the cookies sparingly and conditionally.. That’s just soooo wrong. It really messes a with a man’s natural desires. Some men already know, after an argument, disagreement or not following through on something that the wife expected, they already know: no cookies for a while, till she gets over it. After a while it really affects a man mentally, emotionally and physically.
But again, I re-state absolutely not an excuse to cheat and mess around!!!!!!
March 10, 2010 at 10:56 pm
I think that any man that spits the “let a man be a man” line is looking for a way to minimize the fallout if he gets caught,. No man would tell that line to their daughter or sister.. Which is evidence that subconsciously – they know it’s B.S…
March 10, 2010 at 10:56 pm
@Nick…really? So men don’t have this uncontrolable urge to “wander the earth”?
March 10, 2010 at 10:57 pm
you are right there is no excuse, but people need sex…you know men can withhold sex too! LMAO…not often but they can…you have people that no matter what will find an excuse to cheat, that is another subject and has to do with their own self esteem and responsibility…
March 10, 2010 at 10:59 pm
that’s some bull
March 10, 2010 at 11:00 pm
@Myesha- I hear you…and I think we are going a little left…the person I am talking about swore that no matter what, a man is gonna do him…and I am hoping to god that everyone doesn’t think that makes sense. Now there are a million reasons why people cheat..and honestly, I respect and understand human nature..but doing something “just cuz” is… See More just uncivilized to me. The only difference between us and wild animals is our civility…so why bother being in a relationship if you have no idea what to expect from that person in terms of loyalty? This is just a general question. We watch people rise and fall every day because of their infidelities and it isn’t necessary. Marraige is optional…so if it doenst or isnt working…why be married? Doesn’t make sense to me. Good discussion as always!
March 10, 2010 at 11:01 pm
Ohh yeah, men definitly have that urge..but I think that they consciously know it’s wrong.. At least in the context of marriage… Boyfriend/girlfriend… Not so much.. Alright, I’ve said too much, I’m def violating man law..
March 10, 2010 at 11:02 pm
@Nick- lmao…thanks. I actually think that clears it up for me…thanks for weighing in…lol! And that also brings me to another question…
March 10, 2010 at 11:03 pm
Yeah you right…don’t be married…I think he has some issues within himself to have that attitude, but I could be wrong…kinda like the person who won’t try because they figure no matter what they outcome will be the same…you shouldn’t live like that, nor want to…. I agree, marriage is a bond and should be regarded with the upmost respect at ALL times.
Nick, don’t be scared….although men do stick together more than women LOL! well that is unless a man is tryin to work his way in…We don’t want you to lose your player card or anything!
March 10, 2010 at 11:04 pm
I believe wht he sd but i also think tht women allow tht too happn. cause we continue to mess with men who are in relationships. and man or men can only do wht we allow….
March 10, 2010 at 11:04 pm
WOMEN NEED 1 MAN TO FULFILL THIER EVERY NEED.
MEN NEED MANY WOMEN TO FULFIL THIER ONE NEED. I DON’T KNOW WHY IT’S LIKE THAT. YOU SHOULDN’T WORRY ABOUT THING YOU CAN’T CONTROL. KEEP YALL HEADS UP LADIES. SO THE ANSWER IS, TRUE!!
March 10, 2010 at 11:05 pm
Could that be true, hmmmmmm lets see. That would not constitute of treating a woman like a queen. That would mean that his love is conditional and she would have to accept his terms on how he chooses to render his love to her. And that is not Love that is more like control. Yes we are all guilty of looking at someone else besides our partner and is… See More… See More normal and it’s okay to a certain degree. Heck we are human creatures and are drawn to things that we feel are beautiful in our sight. However that is why we humans also have something called self control and respect. We are also equipped with instinct and with that being said we know who we can make a fool out of and who we can’t. If he cheats what that says about him, he has no respect, self control of definitely no loyalty for his mate. It is a selfish act and not every man feels that way. This man, who every he is has decided he would speak for all men and has obviously made this statement to make himself feel better about the way he views relationship and that’s fine but we are all individual and have a choice on how we do things. At the end of the day what do you value?
March 10, 2010 at 11:06 pm
Ashley great points…choose wisely and pick a man that treasures u and himself.
March 10, 2010 at 11:07 pm
damn; 37 comments so far! I didn’t read any of them before mine, but all I have to say is that’s some dumb shit right there. I’m a man and I don’t cheat; it’s just stupid behavior… If you want to mess around; just do it but don’t drag a woman in it with you. Just be single.
March 10, 2010 at 11:08 pm
good answer Daryl…but some men, need to have that safe heaven you know?
March 10, 2010 at 11:09 pm
OK DARYL, IT’S A FEW OF YALL OUT THERE! WHERE THEY FIND YOU AT? LOL
March 10, 2010 at 11:09 pm
A real man does treat his woman as a queen and he protects her emotionally and physically so that comment wouldn’t apply to a real man because a real man does nothing to harm his queen……just my thoughts
March 10, 2010 at 11:10 pm
LOL!! I bet the guy who said this is cheating on his wife right now! I think people have forgotten that Marriage is not just a vow between a man an a women but between God and in the Bible it specifically says to keep the marriage bed clean and undefiled!!
March 10, 2010 at 11:11 pm
Most of the guys I know think the same way that I do… We’re out there, it’s just the ignorant ones get heard more often.
March 10, 2010 at 11:12 pm
Oh wow didn’t see this discussion going on yesterday. What an idiot. IN my book he has nothing to say. and that cheating fool when he gets old cant get it up and can’t take care of himself he better wish one of them mistresses would be “concerned” for him. LOL